Mourning the loss of subtlely

Istanbul Modern, April 2013I was recently enjoying a cup of chai with the delectable Asma of Curry Go and we got to talking about a phenomenon that happens every spring in Montreal. That is, the minute the temperature rises, the city breaks out with barely contained breasts, half-released bums and long white thighs.

We discussed the possibility of our advancing maturity perhaps influencing the rapidity with which we wrinkle our noses at American-Apparel-ed girls lounging on the slopes of Mont Royal. Or maybe it’s the aversion to 80s fashion that only those who actually lived in the 80s could experience. But no.

It’s that I’m mourning the death of subtlety, and by extension, a loss for the art of seduction.

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Teaching music / teaching yoga

20130410-195820.jpgOne of the pleasures of reading is the possibility for synchronicity to occur. Your eyes follow the lines and suddenly, you come across a passage that marries two parts of your understanding into one meaningful and electrifying whole. This happened earlier this week while reading an article by Jeremy Denk in the April 8 issue of The New Yorker.

In “Every Good Boy Does Fine”, Denk writes about his training as a pianist and the wisdom he received from his piano teacher, György Sëbok. I do not teach music – but I do teach yoga – and Sëbok’s words resonated strongly with that part of my life.

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Gender, sexuality and biology – some thoughts

Tilda Swilton, actress

Tilda Swinton

I finally understand why I love Tilda Swinton. Apart from being an exceptional actress, style icon and performance artist, Tilda Swinton is a strong indication of how we are evolving as a species.

More precisely, Swinton defies rigid labels and sexual roles. She simultaneously embodies the feminine and masculine parts of her identity (both physical and gestural). She is simply, Tilda, and we love her in every incarnation.

I believe she represents how each of us will experience gender and sexuality in the future. Not as it is today - a rigid biological classification elaborated by socially-dictated behaviours, customs and expressions – but as a spectrum.

Darwin proposed that diversity is key to survival of the fittest, so our evolution hinges on biological diversity, as well as the emotional, sexual and spiritual diversity of every individual.

Diversity on the outside and on the inside too, do you feel me?

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Travel notes from Amsterdam

20130408-204108.jpg*Three cheers for a great travel bag! My green leather satchel from Rudsak has been stressed by beach sand in Italy, softened by sweat during a hot three weeks in Spain, jostled on public transit rides all over the eastern United States, whipped by wind in Nova Scotia and is now bearing cool temperatures from the North Sea in Amsterdam (what next, Turkey?). It’s been more than the ideal carry-all of books, notebooks and passport. It’s a tangible, visual memory of every trip I’ve taken in the last four years. A real treasure!

*I like to visualize the different stages of travel. Each leg of the journey progressively longer than the last. Front door to the bus stop, bus to the airport, long flight. And then progressively shorter. Airport to the train. Train to the tram. Tram to the hotel doorstep. I see it as an upward-facing parabola and me, as a little blue dot following the line as I get closer to my destination.

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Yes, I did write about you in my story.

Urban art, Montreal, March 2013You know how it is, writers. You share your writing with a curious friend or family member and shortly after, the questions and comments begin…

Is the character of Jeremy based on your ex? Did I see a little of me in the character of Sarah? The cherry pie incident sounds familiar! Won’t your mom be mad over how you depicted her in this story?

There’s a lot of winking and zipping of lips, making it impossible for you to explain the truth.

That is, that every single person you have ever known ends up in your writing.

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What I’m learning from practising hot yoga

Art, Rémi Francoeur, February 2013The quick answer: Not to take yoga so seriously.

The full story: About a year ago, I figured out that I needed to practise 3-4 times a week at a studio that was close to home and that offered a large selection of class times. So I started going to Moksha Yoga Montreal. I quickly learned to appreciate the blast of heat in the middle of a cold winter’s day and the anonymity of practising in such large classes was a blessing.

What took a little longer, however, was getting used to practising yoga without any of my usual reference points. I rarely practised with the same instructors, I couldn’t wear my glasses (because of the sweat) and even if I did manage to make out their forms, I hardly ever saw anyone I knew.

All of a sudden, it was just me and the mat. There was nothing to distract me. The only way to go was in.

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Mothers and daughters

Montreal, Rachel Street, February 2013Once, when I was about 8 years old, my mother asked me to make my brother’s bed.

When I asked her why, quietly wondering whether he had broken an arm that morning and I just hadn’t noticed, she replied, “Because it’s a girl’s responsibility to make the beds.”

It took a few moments before I could stop laughing and tell her ‘no’. I have no memory of her reaction, but this is the earliest – and most emblematic – memory I have of the relationship I had with my mother through my childhood and adolescence. Right up until the age of 35 actually.

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Important things first

Montreal, Alley, February 2013I was upstairs celebrating a neighbour’s birthday this past weekend and we got to talking about making art. She’s an art historian who “gave up drawing long ago” and I subsequently mentioned by own struggles with balancing work and creative writing.

Her advice was simple, but effective: “Important things first.”

Her idea being, why take care of everything else first to make time for the writing later? Especially when you won’t feel like writing because you’ve already spent the day hacking away at a keyboard?

If writing is the most important thing, take care of that first and the rest will then feel effortless.

What important things have you been neglecting to put first?

 

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On turning 40

Montreal, January 2012The questions and comments started a few months ago. From What have you planned? and Have you started going to bed at 10pm yet?, to It’s all downhill from here! and Better not eat that, you’ll never lose the weight now! And the closer it gets to my birthday – which is in March – the more the exclamation marks continue to roll in.

It was the same thing in the months leading up to my 30th birthday. My reaction is the same now that is was then. It’s *a* birthday. I refuse to have a panic attack every five years just because an ancient mathematician decided to base our numerical system on units of 10.

This doesn’t mean that I don’t have doubts about past decisions, worries about growing older or fears about coming change. It just means that I don’t wish to participate in the widespread panic and hand-wringing that seems to break out as someone nears their 40th birthday.

I want my birthdays to be about celebration and renewal.

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Please don’t ask me why I don’t have children

Dried roses, Montreal, Christmas Day 2012I know some of you are asking out of genuine affection, while others are simply grasping when conversation falters, but the next time you feel the words bubbling up, remember this:

Generally, women without children are:

*Trying to get pregnant and may or may not be struggling
*Can’t get pregnant and mourn the loss
*Want children, but lack a partner
*Wanted children, but the opportunity has passed
*Eventually want children, but are not yet ready
*Don’t want children or never wanted children

In the first four instances, your question may potentially cause great pain or annoyance. In the last two, your question will definitely result in an eyeroll and a sigh. In any case, you’re putting this woman in an awkward situation and now she has to decide just how much private information she’s willing to divulge in the interest of answering politely.

And that’s if she feels like answering politely.

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